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Domestic violence – my life experience

This is topic, that I don’t like to talk about, but anyway, I cannot hide the truth. Domestic violence or in a simple word husband beating wife or the other way around. Is very seldom wife beating her husband is happening, we seldom hear that. Well I have think a long time to write this or not,  will this truth humiliate my family and give a negative perspective. Well truth always hurt. Hope you guys will learn something about it.

The truth is, I myself experience it when I was in childhood. My dad will come home, drunk or mabok, well he is alcoholic, he will pick up any topic to get started, he will yell and shout first. And my auntie (fathers sister) … she a bitch….will joins him and supports him as well…. When things get heat up…. And the beatings will follow…..he will beat my mother for no reason….. What I can do…. I was small then, too young to do anything….. I and together my brothers and sisters will cry…. Cry…. And cry….

How frequently this will happen??? Since the day one that I can remember the world.. …you know what I mean…. Maybe 4 or 5 I don’t know….. it will happen at least once a week or more. Why my father is so stupid?? Why he listen to other people??? Why he is like that??? Why my auntie like that, poking my father, with all the lies he tell my father, I know she don’t like my mother. Maybe that’s why. My mother is a typical housewife…. Which she believes marriage is lifetime…

That’s why he never do a police report. She doesn’t want humiliate our family. She doesn’t want my father loses his job. She doesn’t want my father end up in jail and whatnot. She sacrifices herself for all her children. Not lot of mother in this world is willing to do that. She a great mother. She is the mother of all mothers. Thank you mother, thank you very much. God bless you. We will take care you.

In this case the true victim is the children. Yes I’m the victim…. Ha ha ha….. Guys, please don’t think I have become a psycho or gila, or become like him…. With this kind of condition or surroundings, how can we study and get better marks at school. Or become somebody.

Thank god, all 5 of us is doing ok in life, eldest bro at Austria own a restaurant, second sister is an administrator in audit firm, third bro is GM at private company, fourth me an insurance agent and last is sister a marketing executive in KL. So despite all the domestic violence at childhood we become this, just imagine what we have achieve if our father …..!!! You know what I mean…..

My childhood, has taught me a huge lesson in my life, never, never, never do this to your wife, if you want hit or fight, please find somebody your size. Then you are real men, don’t be coward and hit your wife and children. Respect every person then only they respect you, be a good leader, lead your family to glory. This is I’m doing now, and it is not difficult.

I promise to myself, when I was child that time, which I won’t be like my father. Anyway dear readers, it has been 15 years my father is dead. Hope he rest in peace. So anyway guys…….

Life goes on……